A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing his own mind.
Think back to the last time you intently listened to someone to gain understanding into what they were saying.
Now think back to the last time you spoke your mind.
If you’re anything like me it’s much harder to come up with examples of good listening than it is to think of all the times I’ve spoke my mind. This is foolish.
What’s easier? Intently listening to understand or speaking your own mind?
Obviously, speaking your own mind is easier. I know it is for me. I already know (at least I think I do) what’s going on in my head and I feel entitled to say it. If I’m being honest, most of the time when I’m “listening” to someone, it’s really just me waiting for their mouth to stop moving so that I can speak my piece.
This is the easy way out. Fools, nitwits, stooges, dopes, and lamebrains all take the easy way. Why? Because it’s easy, duh.
Truly understanding something and someone is hard. It takes serious discipline and wisdom. But it’s worth the work. Once you fully understand someone or something you’ll totally agree.
Understanding feels good. Delightful, even.