31 Proverbs Men

Proverbs 31:30

Charm is deceptive and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

It seems like now more than ever it’s easy to be deceptively charming and beautifully vain. Photo-editing has made sure of that. Many phones even have a “beauty mode” that photoshops your face as you take the selfie.

I don’t thing any of this is intrinsically wrong, they just make it easier to be vain and deceptive.

Imagine a woman on Instagram with 1000 followers posts a picture of her church and how much she enjoys serving there. She’ll probably get a couple dozen likes and maybe a comment or two.

Imagine this same woman posts a bikini pic with her back arched and half her butt out. She’ll get hundreds, maybe more than a thousand likes and plenty of friend requests to go along with it.

Many women who get praised by the world are the exact opposite of the kind of women who should be praised and revered. Women that fear the Lord and do the hard work of living for Him deserve the praise.

Let’s find them, and recognize them. They deserve it.


Sorry ladies, Proverbs 31 was not written for you. You can definitely learn and apply what it says but it was not written as a manual for godly living as a female.

Men need help. You know this, but it’s worth noting. I’ve heard both women and men point to Proverbs 31 as evidence of the male dominated society in which it was written. They say, “ well there’s no Proverbs 32 man!” Or get annoyed that there’s no instruction for how men are to live husbands. But these people are just plain wrong.

The entire book of Proverbs is structured as a father passing down his wisdom to his son. Yes, much of it involves figuring out how to tell the good women from the bad but this is not a comment on women. Rather, it points out how much wisdom it takes for a man to find the good ones.

Men need that help. We need 31 chapters of wisdom to figure out how to live.


Words Matter

Proverbs 30:6

Do not add to His words or He will reprove you and you will be proved a liar.

In order to not add to God’s words, you have to know His words.

I don’t think that this is only talking about those who blatantly add things to the Bible. Like those who change some wording around to make gay marriage or abortion ok. Or other religions like catholicism and mormonism that add their own books to the canon.

I think that this is a warning to take God’s words at face value, whether you like them or not. Some God-Loving people put words in God’s mouth because they don’t know what He actually said.

I’ve done it. I used to think that in some ways His word prevented woman from being in some types of leadership. Thankfully after studying with more clarity and guidance, I was proved a liar.

Just because today’s culture thinks sex outside of a heterosexual marriage is fine, doesn’t mean that it is. Yet many true Christians add to God’s words when they sleep around. Or in my case, just because some well meaning church leaders forbid women from serving as leaders doesn’t mean it’s right. This is adding to His words too.

The best thing any of us can do to live an authentic life with God is to learn His word, take it at face value, and do it.


Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.

Adults tend to forget that kids don’t know anything. They are literally brand new humans.

Before a computer can do anything it has to have the right programming. Somebody writes code and creates software and then the computer is usable.

When a three year old child is thirsty, they think that they will literally die if they don’t get something to drink right now. It’s the job of the adults in her life to teach her that she is capable of waiting until an appropriate time to drink. This is the kind of wisdom a 3 year old can learn.

I’ve worked with enough kids over the past 8ish years to see that our society has a parenting crisis. Don’t believe me? Watch any professional sports contest. In the NBA, anytime a referee makes a call at least one player whines and gripes and complains about it. Every time I’ve seen NFL superstar Cam Newton lose a game, he’s a big fat sore loser. Remember when Ronda Rousey lost her first fight? She admitted to being suicidal.

Because of a game she lost.

Why though? It would appear that no one took the time to teach our kids how to lose. The discipline given in wisdom that gives wisdom seems to be non-existent. Instead, kids get their own way. Kids, who in the few years they have been alive, have managed to convince adults that they know what they need.

It’s time for discipline to come back. Not to control kids, but to raise them into great adults. Having great kids is never the goal. Raising kids to become great adults is.

Whether you know it or not, if your kids are always getting their own way, the shame falls on you.

Fess Up

Proverbs 28:13

He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.

Almost every day I see some celebrity/business/political scandal that has been uncovered. Even when I’m not looking. That’s what people seem to devote their lives too. Digging up dirt on someone.

What’s scary about that?

How much they find.

I’m grateful to live in a country where you have to treat people with respect and honesty in order to prosper long term. Obviously, there are those few who manage to prosper in spite of their misbehavior.

The crooks seem to get uncovered. When you sow deceit you reap calamity. Hiding the wrong things you do doesn’t help you or anyone else. Not only is it the right thing to fess up and forsake, but it’s also the best thing you can do for yourself.

Note that it’s confession AND forsaking. Confessing is easy once your transgression is out. But how many of us truly forsake them?


Proverbs 27:12

A prudent man sees evil and hides himself, the naive proceed and pay the penalty.

Prudent: careful in providing for the future; cautious, reasonable, sane, far-sighted.

Naive: having or showing a lack of experience, judgement, or information; ignorant, unsophisticated, impulsive.

Foresight seems to be a lost art. Many do not have the ability to see beyond their next meal. The wise, prudent person “sees” into the future and makes decisions based on sane thinking. Much evil, danger, heartache, suffering can be avoided or eliminated with prudence.

My wife has taught me a lot about this. It’s not complicated but it is hard to do. Just think to yourself, “if I do or say this, what will be the consequences?” It takes an element of discernment that anyone can develop.

But they don’t. This is why species go extinct. Forests are ravaged. Babies killed in the womb. Suicides committed. Marriages severed. Products recalled.

Naive people are paying the penalty.

Do. or Don’t

Proverbs 26:4-5

Do not answer a fool according to his folly or you will also be like him.

Answer a fool as his folly deserves that he not be wise in his own eyes.

HAHA, we got you now! You silly Christians believing the Bible. How dumb are you? It contradicts itself in back to back verses. Definitely NOT true. The Bible is a joke.

Have you ever heard this argument based on these proverbs? I have. Multiple times actually. Often when a writer wants to belittle God and His Word, they cart out these to verses as a the perfect example of how the Bible is contradictory.

And I love it when they do.

The fact that they don’t get it validates Proverbs more than just about anything else could. One of the main points of this book is that fools are fools and they don’t get wisdom. They think they are sooooo smart and wise but they are actually delusional dimwits.

Solomon is not contradicting himself here. The point of these two verses is that it takes wisdom to know how to answer a fool. Sometimes, the wise thing to do is to ignore them. Other times, correcting them might be the wise option. Still other times, responding to folly with a sarcastically stupid response might be the way to go.

Dealing with fools requires wisdom. A wise person handles them in the proper way. It might be different from time to time.

Hot Air

Proverbs 25:14

Like clouds and wind without rain is a man who boasts of his gifts falsely.

Here in Phoenix it’s monsoon season. Basically that means that we get random big thunderstorms that usually don’t last very long. Lots of rain in a short amount of time. I like them. I’ll take just about anything that brings the temperature down.

But it seems like half the time I see big grey clouds they do nothing. I get excited for rain and a brief respite from the heat and then nothing happens.

All they do is bring a lot of hot, humid, uncomfortable air.

This is what some people are like. They are big, larger than life, even grandiose. At least according to themselves they are. But when it comes down to it, they’re a lot of hot gross air.

I take this nugget of wisdom as a reminder to be humble and honest. With more ways than ever to exaggerate my own skills and achievements, I don’t want to be full of uncomfortable useless air.